Looking For Good Genetics

grrlgoyle · Kitten Joined: 08 Apr 2003 Posts: 126 Location: Alabama

O.K. guys. I know this is very strange, but I want a kid. I guess I just realized it, seeing as I'm about to turn 23 and all. But......I am on the market strictly for genetics. What's love got to do with it, you might be asking yourself. Not a *Holy Censor, Batman* thing. I'm looking for someone who has traits, personality and physical, that I want my children to have, as well as my own. No allergies, good eyesight, high intellectual standards,a pleasant peaceful, personality, and musically inclined are all necessary. Blond hair and blue eyes OR dark hair and brown or green eyes are preferred. Being at least 6' tall is also a plus. Laughing

Do you guys think this is wrong of me? I just don't feel the need for a significant other in my life, but I desire a child. Let me know what you guys think about my unorthodox thoughts or if you may be able to help me out.

SRXThunder · Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2003 7:37 am Post subject:

Like you said, you're only 23. I'll be 32 here shortly, with a 6 year old and a 6 month old. I love both of my kids to death. The sun rises and sets by them in my eyes, but at 26, when the first one came along, I was too young. There's no rush, believe me. Parenting, though the most rewarding thing I have ever done, is also the most demanding and difficult. Your whole life, as you know it, ceases to exist. Your only priority is the child, everything else is secondary. My advice is to wait another 8 years. You'll find what you're looking for, trust me. You just have to be paitent. And love *does* have a lot to do with it. Looking from the outside in it may not appear that way, but believe me it does. I have done it both ways. My first was an "oops" with a casual g/f. My second with the woman I plan to spend the rest of my life with. The second scenario is a lot better for both the child and the parent, believe me. There's no rush in growing up. Relax, jam, and party for a while. Once those little ones start popping up a late night at the bar or a gig now becomes a late night feeding, diaper change, comforting when they are sick or have nightmares, and regardless of how little sleep you get you still have to get up at 5:30 to go to work because you need to make sure they have formula, diapers, a college fund, and in my case I have to be sure I can pay for 2 weddings later down the road. Do what you want to do first, get it all out of your system. Then think about having kids.
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grrlgoyle · Kitten Joined: 08 Apr 2003 Posts: 126 Location: Alabama

Those are words of wisdom I must say. I have been thinking about it for the last 5 years, but I have been wise enough to put it off. I'm still thinking about it after all this time and the urge just gets stronger and stronger every day. There is a possibility I may not be able to have children, that's one reason I don't want to wait too long. The older I get the less of a chance I have to be able to. Those are part of my reasons for wanting what I do. But I am trying to hold out for now. I may have to wait a year to let all the chemicals (not drugs, meds) get out of my system. Your words will heed warning in the back of my mind though. Thanks for the input.